kenali lelaki dan wanita

Kecantikan seorang wanita ialah terletak sejauh mana ia dapat menahan (menjaga) malunya, sementara kegagahan seorang lelaki ialah terletak sejauh mana ia dapat menahan (menjaga) marahnya.

Orang yang membujang adalah orang yang belum menemukan penghibur duka dan dia baru memperolehinya dengan berkahwin.

Suami adalah orang yang mencari kebahagiaan hidup dengan menghilangkan sebahagian kemerdekaannya.

Wanita menghadapi banyak permasalahan; sebahagian diatasi dengan berkahwin dan sebahagian yang lain diatasi setelah dia masuk ke liang kubur.

Mata yang paling indah tetapi juga harus diwaspadai adalah mata kaum wanita.

Jangan menyalahkan perasaan isteri anda kerana perasaannya yang terbaik ialah ketika ia menerima anda sebagai suami.

Perawan tua ialah wanita yang kehilangan kesempatan menyusahkan seorang lelaki.

Yang diinginkan seorang gadis dari dunia ini hanyalah seorang suami, dan apabila ia sudah memperolehinya, ia menginginkan segala-galanya.

Wanita bisa memaafkan suatu pengkhianatan suaminya, tetapi dia tidak bisa melupakannya.

Kecantikan wanita tidak bererti apa-apa dibandingkan dengan kemuliaan akhlak dan perilakunya.

Sebelum kahwin, wanita hafal seluruh jawaban dan sesudah kahwin, ia hafal seluruh pertanyaan.

Barangsiapa mengahwini wanita kerana hartanya, maka dia telah menjual kemerdekaannya.

Wanita adalah bintang dan pelita bagi lelaki. Tanpa pelita, lelaki bermalam dalam kegelapan.

Wanita lebih cepat daripada lelaki dalam menangis dan dalam mengingatkan peristiwa yang menyebabkan dia menangis.

Wanita tertawa bila ia mampu dan menangis apabila ia menginginkan sesuatu..

Pudarlah kebahagiaan seorang wanita jika ia tidak mampu menjadikan suaminya teman yang termulia.

Wanita sangat berlebihan dalam mencintai dan membenci, dan tidak mengenal pertengahannya.

Wanita selalu tergolong manusia halus dan lembut sampai saat dia berkahwin.

Tidak mungkin seorang lelaki hidup bahagia tanpa didampingi oleh isteri yang mulia.

Wanita hidup untuk berbahagia dengan cinta, sementara lelaki mencintai untuk hidup berbahagia.

Kebijaksanaan wanita terletak di dalam hatinya.

Seorang wanita yang bijaksana menambahkan gula pada kalimatnya setiap kali berbicara dengan suaminya, dan mengurangi garam pada ucapan suaminya.

Cincin perkahwinan adalah cincin termahal di dunia, sebab mengharuskan pemberinya mengingatkan harganya setiap bulan tanpa henti.

Sesungguhnya tidak ada wanita yang sangat cantik, yang ada ialah kaum lelaki yang sangat lemah bila berhadapan dengan kecantikan.

Bagi lelaki, yang terakhir kali mati ialah jantungnya dan bagi wanita adalah lidahnya.

Wanita tidak diciptakan untuk dikagumi semua lelaki tetapi sebagai sumber kebahagiaan seorang suami.

Pada waktu bertunang, lelaki banyak berbicara dan perempuan mendengarkan. Pada saat perkahwinan, perempuan berbicara dan pengantin lelaki mendengarkan. Sesudah perkahwinan, suami dan isteri banyak berbicara dan para jiran tetangga mendengarkan.

Setiap wanita mempunyai dua mata. Adapun wanita yang cemburu berlebihan mempunyai tiga mata. Satu di sebelah kanan, satu di sebelah kiri dan yang ketiga diarahkan kepada suami.

Wanita pada umumnya takut akan tiga hal : tikus, munculnya uban dan wanita-wanita cantik yang menjadi saingannya.
Isteri yang bersikap jujur dan setia kepada suami meringankan setengah beban kehidupan suaminya.

Seorang wanita menghadapi kesulitan apabila ia berada di antara lelaki yang dicintainya dan yang mencintainya.

PETUA

aku jumpa tips ni.. dlm 1 blog.. so aku just copy pasta... ahaksss... utk renungan... aku... korg..... dan si dia


63 tips petua bahagia
daripada: dr Datuk Fadzilah Kamsah

1. Doa yang berterusan.
2. Patuh ajaran agama.
3. Murah dengan pujian.
4. Murah dengan khidmat.
5. Murah dengan belaian kasih sayang.
6. Murah dengan sentuhan.
7. Mencari kebaikan pasangan.
8. Cari masa berkomunikasi, berbual atau bergurau senda.
9. Cari kebaikan dan pembaikan diri daripada setiap pertengkaran.
10. Menghormati had, sempadan atau hal peribadi pasangan. (ni aku sedar... aku slalu over..)
11. Menilai diri daripada perspektif pasangan.
12. Berfikiran terbuka - boleh tegur menegur.
13. Berani mengambil risiko emosi - tegur/perubahan/berpisah sementara.(ni aku x sanggup)
14. Menilai dan memberi keutamaan dalam kehidupan.
15. Tolak-ansur.
16. Menghormati dan mengambil kira ‘gerak batin’ (intuition) perempuan.
17. Tidak mengejar kebendaan semata-mata.
18. Sedar bahawa perselisihan kadangkala tidak boleh dielakkan.
19. Mengubah diri untuk merangsang perubahan pada pasangan. (yes! if kite nk org berubah.. kite kena tunjukkn contoh)
20. Sanggup berkorban buat pasangan.
21. Menghormati pasangan.
22. Berasa amat beruntung (dan nyatakan) mendapat pasangan yang ada.
23. Perhubungan seksual yang sihat dan diredai.
24. Menghormati perbezaan dalam diri pasangan.
25. Sentiasa bermaafan sebelum tidur. (aku slalu nk cm ni... tp kdg² sesetengah hal... xleh nk selesai b4 tido)
26. Sentiasa bersangka baik terhadap masa depan.
27. Meletakkan hak kepada pasangan.
28. Tidak menjadi hamba kepada pasangan.
29. Berubah secara kecil-kecilan untuk meningkatkan kebahagiaan.
30. Mengawal marah. Buat perjanjian.
31. Mencari penyelesaian dalam situasi ‘menang-menang’.
32. Muhasabah hubungan untuk mencari punca masalah.
33. Menghormati sifat semula jadi pasangan.
34. Memahami peranan ‘pasangan’.
35. Hubungan perasaan sesama pasangan.
36. Jangan simpan ketidakpuasan, sedih, marah atau benci dalam hati.
37. Bentuk kod kasih sayang dan anda berdua saja yang tahu.
38. Sengaja merancang untuk membaiki hubungan suami isteri.
39. Tujuh kali puji dan satu teguran.
40. Sebut ‘I love you’ sepanjang masa.
41. Banyakkan bergurau dan bermesra.
42. Sentiasa berterus terang.
43. Beri masa untuk perubahan berlaku - sabar.
44. Elakkan berdebat untuk mencari kebenaran.
45. Elakkan salah pasangan.
46. Cari titik pertemuan.
47. Selesaikan masalah hari ini pada hari ini juga. (sokong!)
48. Lebih banyak memberi daripada menerima.
49. Minta nasihat, pandangan atau maklum balas daripada pasangan.
50. Sentiasa bersemangat - bangun tidur, pergi kerja, balik kerja dan sebagainya.
51. Seimbangkan hubungan dari segi:
(a) Mental, pendidikan dan ilmu
(b) Emosi
(c) Fizikal dan ekonomi
(d) Sosial
(e) Spiritual
52. Jangan berjauhan terlalu lama (kecuali terpaksa).
53. Tidak terlalu mengongkong.
54. Tidak bertindak bersendirian.
55. Memberi peluang untuk berbeza:
(a) Pendapat atau pandangan
(b) Hobi
(c) Kegemaran
(d) Makanan
(e) Cita rasa
(f) Warna pilihan dan pelbagai
56. Humor atau lawak dari semasa ke semasa.
57. Minta bantuan untuk memecahkan kitaran negatif.
58. Berwawasan dan pandang ke depan (tidak terjebak dengan masalah semasa).
59. Tidak meminta yang bukan-bukan.
60. Bentuk undang-undang atau peraturan dalam rumah tangga.
61. Mencari kelainan dan perubahan positif.
62. Elakkan mendera pasangan dengan apa cara sekalipun.
63. Reda, syukur dan tawakal kepada Allah s.w.t.

kt dunia ni.. xde manusia yg perfect.... lebih² lg aku... menghampiri perfect pon aku x mampu...
MAAF BUAT SEMUA.....

A-Z in relationship....

Great relationships don't just happen. And as we're often reminded, they're the result of hard work, commitment and trust built over a lifetime of interaction. Since there are no short-cuts, it pays to be mindful of the basic attitudes and qualities that create strong, successful marriages, families and friendships. See how you measure up in our list of must-dos and must-avoids!

A = ADJUSTMENTS

Successful relationships are all about adjustment and compromise. The happiest couples will tell you there's no way to forge a lasting relationship without give and take. Adjustments are a necessary part of living together, and it's something both parties need to make. Don't insist on your way all the time or try to force people into behaving how you think they should.

B = BLAME

Pointing the finger of blame is often what we do to deny our part in a conflict. The problem with this is it never solves anything and it nearly always triggers a negative reaction. When you're playing the blame game, you get the other person on the defensive, which makes it difficult for him or her to think rationally about what you're saying (even if you've got a valid point!) and respond in a positive manner.

C = COMMUNICATION

Good communication is the foundation of all healthy relationships. Make an effort to communicate rationally and be sensitive to the other person's point of view, feelings and state of mind. Don't forget communication involves listening as much as expressing your own thoughts, feelings or views.

D = DESIRE

Contrary to what popular culture dictates, sexual intimacy goes beyond mere physical gratification. So while passion and desire are important aspects of a loving relationship, it's only within the context of marriage (where there is a foundation of real trust, commitment and loyalty) that you will feel truly connected to your partner and genuinely loved.

E = EMOTIONAL IQ

Paying full attention and really listening when someone is talking is the key to identifying emotionally with him or her. Building a close rapport with the important people in your life comes naturally when you learn to show sincere concern for them. As the saying goes, people don't care how much you know, till they know how much you care.

F = FORGIVE & FORGET

Hurt by something a loved one did and can't get over it? If the relationship is worth salvaging, and if you yourself are struggling with anger and bitterness, it's time to try forgiving and forgetting. Cut yourself and your partner some slack. It may be a one-off mistake that he or she committed in the heat of the moment. Resolve the issue and move on - you owe it to yourself.

G = GIVE 100% OF YOURSELF

The more of yourself you're willing to invest in relationship, the more fulfilling it becomes. Your commitment and willingness to work at it, no matter how tough the goings gets, is the most obvious way to build a strong marriage. It will mean sacrifices of time, effort and emotional energy, but the lifetime rewards are well worth it.

H = HONESTY

This is the cornerstone of all successful human relations, whether personal or professional. Without honesty, there is no trust, and without trust there is no growth. Watch your motives, though, and see that honest words are always spoken in a loving manner for the benefit of the other party. True honesty is never an excuse to attack another person's weaknesses or destroy their confidence.

I = INDEPENDENCE

Everyone needs space to grow and evolve, so learn to appreciate other people's individuality. Clinging to a partner and spending every waking moment together may seem romantic at first, but you'll soon find that you need some form of interest independent of one another to keep the relationship fresh and exciting.

J = JEALOUSY

This green-eyed monster rears its ugly head in even the best of relationships, when the insecurity is not addressed at an early stage. Jealousy clouds rational thinking and provokes ugly words or actions that leave lasting scars. While it may be linked to a loved one, it is never motivated by love, but rather a fear of not being loved. Constantly reassuring your loved ones of your affection and devotion helps to keep this damaging emotion in check.

K = KINDNESS

Never underestimate simple acts of kindness in showing someone how much you appreciate and love them. Finding opportunities to do little favors, extend thoughtful gestures and pay heartfelt compliments to those around you keeps you from taking people for granted.

L = LAUGHTER

Take time to laugh and share simple pleasures with your loved ones. A sense of humor is a great tool for defusing tense situations and lightening the pressures of daily life. The most treasured memories often include an element of joy in them.

M = MANNERS

Simple courtesies such as saying 'please' and 'thank you', minding your table manners or putting another's needs before your own are often allowed to slip as familiarity sets in. Politeness and consideration always make others feel valued.

N = NURTURE

Seek to nurture others through encouraging words, sharing in their successes and reinforcing their value and self-worth. The knowledge that someone believes in you and your dreams is a powerful affirmation and it paves the way for deep, meaningful friendships.

O = OPENNESS

Avoid rigid mindsets or expectations which are a sure-fire recipe for disappointment. No one is perfect and we all have quirky traits, so keeping an open, easy-going attitude towards a loved one's peculiar habits, without trying to change them, will save you ( and them) lots of unnecessary stress.

P = PATIENCE

Patience is vital in any successful relationship. It's the one quality that no couple can do without, for better or for worse, and the extent of one's patience can determine how frequently conflict occurs.

Q = QUALITY TIME

Carve out space and time for the special people in your life. Never crowd your calendar with so many activities and social commitments that you fail to factor in quality time with your spouse, parents or close friends.

R = RESPECT

Mutual respect is central to a strong, satisfying relationship. Even if you disagree with another's actions or opinions, you can still show respect for them. As correct or informed as you think you are, never put down or belittle others. Instead, learn to appreciate their unique strengths that complement your own weaknesses.

S = SELF-WORTH

A healthy self-image is important as it enables you to receive love as well as give it. If you cannot love yourself, it is unlikely that you will be receptive to other people's expressions of affection towards you. It can be very frustrating for people to keep trying to convince you of how much they care if feelings of low self-esteem and lack of confidence keep getting in the way.

T = TRYING TIMES

Tough times are inevitable, and can pose a challenge for any couple. Whether it's financial, health-related or an issue of broken trust, these seasons test the true mettle of your commitment to one another. Unless you're in an abusive situation, eliminate the option of divorce or separation from your mind completely. Too often, it's the convenient solution which deprives you of the opportunity to strengthen and deepen your love for one another through adversity.

U = UNDERSTANDING

Being understanding of others comes from putting yourself in their shoes to see why they speak or behave a certain way. Trying to understand their insecurities when they act up, and accepting them as they are without being judgmental builds bridges rather than walls.

V = VACATION

Stressed from the hustle and bustle of city life? Take a vacation with those you love, to rekindle romance or just create memories to treasure.

W = WIDENING SPACES

It begins as a sense that you're drifting apart or from a prolonged difference of opinion, but if you're not careful, you'll soon let go and let the gap between you widen. A few missed calls words left unsaid and sweeping issues under the carpet can all result in a huge chasm. Don't let indifference set in - keep the communication channels open.

X = EXTREME MEASURES

Sometimes, it takes tough love to protect the people we love from themselves, such as when there's an addictive habit involved. Caring enough to confront them and taking extreme steps may be necessary to nudge them towards admitting and seeking help with these issues.

Y = YIELDING

A mature love does not insist on getting its own way all the time. And not every subject needs to become a raging debate if you learn to distinguish between essential and non-essential issues. Being gracious and yielding occasionally can promote a healthy give-and-take relationship.

Z = ZEROING IN ON A PROBLEM

The most effective way to deal with any problem arising in a relationship is first to admit that it exists. Avoid generalizations on how bad or impassive the state of the relationship is, but rather take time to reflect and identify specific issues affecting it, and see how these can be addressed.

6 behaviors that scare men.. ahakss

Here are six dating behaviors guaranteed to scare men away:

1. Trash-talking your ex.
Don't talk negatively about an ex-boyfriend in front of a guy you're dating. I don't care if you're on your first date or on your 15th date with a guy, don't ever trash-talk your ex. Your ex is somebody you dated, invited into your life, and with whom you spent a lot of time. So don't talk negatively about your ex in any way, because what a guy thinks when you do this is that if he ever becomes your ex that you're going to trash-talk him the same way. So, when a man asks you about your ex, you can politely say, "We are no longer together. It was a great relationship while it lasted, and I learned a lot." That's it.

2. Paranoia runs rampant.
Here you are dating a man you really like, and the first couple of weeks are going well. Then, that first boys' night out happens. In the beginning, you send him a text that says, "Have a great time tonight!" As the night progresses, however, seeds of doubt start forming in your mind about what he's doing, and you start to think "Is he cheating on me? Is he flirting with other women? Where is he right now?" So then, you lob another text in to him asking "What's going on? What are you doing right now?" Even though he tells you he's just hanging out with his friends, you proceed to make a major blunder: You start checking up on him with continuous texts throughout the night. This paranoia will push a man away. So when you are dating a man and he's out with his friends, respect his "guy time" -- it will make you the cool woman he's always wanted to find.

3. Trash-talking other women.
A huge mistake many women make is trash-talking other women in front of the man they're dating. For example, you are out with him when a woman walks by wearing a skimpy short skirt. You say, "Look how promiscuous that woman looks! I can't believe she is going around in public like that!" What you are doing when you make comments like this to a guy you're dating is telling him that you're not confident in the way you look. It tells him that you don't love who you are and haven't embraced your own body. You are planting a seed of doubt in him, causing him to wonder if he he should date someone else who is more confident (and tolerant). Don't trash-talk other women. It makes you look really insecure.

4. Fishing for compliments.
This is something that can drive a man crazy. Here is a typical scenario: The guy you're dating looks at you and says, "You really look beautiful tonight!" Ten minutes later, you look at him and ask, "How do I look tonight?" Stop fishing for compliments. Real compliments come from the heart. Allow us to compliment you when we really mean it. If we don't give a compliment at the exact moment you desire it, just accept it and be OK with that.

5. Clingy and possessive.
You don't need to do everything together. You're still getting to know him. If there are things he likes to do that simply don't interest you, be cool with it. You don't have to be joined at the hip. If you are going to a cocktail party together, you don't have to be next to him at every moment. If you see him speaking with some woman at the party, do not immediately run over and start grabbing his hand and giving him a big hug -- and certainly don't do this all night long. You are being clingy and possessive when you do this.

6. Pushing friends on him.
Avoid pushing friends on us too soon. Example: A woman will hang out with a guy on the first or second date and say to him, "You have to meet my friends Jenna and Amy. You also have to meet my friends Phil and Anne; they're such a great couple, and you'll love them!" A man hears this and thinks, "I don't even know you yet. Can I get to know you for a month or two before I have to go meet all of your friends and be put on display as 'the boyfriend?'" We don't want to be "the boyfriend" right away. It's too much pressure. We want to get to know you slowly and learn what you're all about. Believe me, once we get to know you -- and like you -- we will be more willing to get to know all of your friends.

Following these tips will help you get past the first month of a new relationship with a man and avoid some of the major pitfalls that can end a new relationship before it even starts. Be the confident woman you really are so we have a chance to embrace you. Don't scare us off before we have a chance to get to know you!